Many of us faced challenges in our formative years and we struggled with them. Some of those struggles might have changed who we are or how we later approached life. Marilyn Campbell is an overcomer. She wrestled with shyness in her young years. Before you read her essay, learn a little more about Marilyn’s background from an update she sent to me:
“I never did quite get the opportunity to thank you [for helping me develop my essay]. Regarding my college process:
I applied to three schools early action: Harvard University, Brown University, and Georgetown University; I applied to Tulane University as a backup school regular decision (it can be considered a backup for those people who reside in-state).
I am happy to say that I was accepted at Brown, at Georgetown (thank you very much!), and at Tulane; I was deferred from Harvard; I am not applying to any more schools.
If there’s something I learned about applying to colleges and watching my friends apply to them, I would recommend applying to as many early action schools as possible by the deadlines. This takes away the stress and work of doing several applications at a very busy time of the year (one is taking exams or they are hanging over our heads).
At the very least, if one applies to one school early action or early decision, s/he should not wait until they receive that school’s response to begin filling out all the other applications waiting in the wings. I know that it is very tempting to wait, but after seeing what this has done to several of my friends, I highly recommend getting an early start.
Finally, I suggest that students don’t blow off their freshman year. If that happens, one will spend the next three years trying to bring up those grades.
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When I was a young, awkward adolescent, I considered myself to be a shy person, especially around boys. Because of this, my experiences at a coed middle school intimidated me somewhat. So, for the past five years, I have attended an all-girls school, which has helped me to become a stronger person. I have overcome my shyness and insecurities and developed much more confidence.
Ironically, I believe that my shyness, something that I consider a communication barrier, has ultimately led me to focus on a field for my life’s work: communications. Despite my aversion to it early on in life, I now love speaking to and interacting with people, be it as a friend, teacher, or public speaker. I now have a passion for stimulating conversation, and that enthusiasm manifests itself in three different and important aspects of my life outside of the classroom: peer support, volunteer work, and music.
Peer support is a high school-sponsored program through which juniors and seniors are selected to work with eighth graders who attend Sacred Heart. It involves an intensive three-day workshop where student leaders learn how to listen effectively to and become mentors for the younger students. I love this work. Once a week, I get to speak to these impressionable boys and girls about anything that I feel is important. I enjoy learning about their lives and their issues and exploring possible solutions to their problems. We study today’s society and its impact on them. I see much of my old self in these young people and that memory has helped me to help them become more confident about their everyday lives.
My volunteer work centers on teaching, through a program called Summerbridge. After school, I go to a nearby public school and tutor learning-disadvantaged preteens. Instead of dealing with the students’ personal issues, as I do in peer support, the Summerbridge focus is more on communication through education. By working with these younger students, I have come to understand the importance of helping them comprehend and apply what they learn in the classroom. Their motivation, given their circumstances, is remarkable. We discuss in detail what they are learning so that I can keep them interested and motivated. Summerbridge is another example of how communication issues are very important to me.
Not surprisingly, music has emerged as another, perhaps indirect, avenue for me to communicate with others. Singing allows me to convey my deep and personal emotions with others. When I sing, I am transported to another realm. The mundane everyday world around me disappears, and I am enveloped in my own, new space, especially when I am performing onstage. When I act, I am transformed, feeling the happiness, sadness, impishness, or even confusion that my character feels. My performance taps into that part of me where those qualities dwell, and I love sharing it with my audience. Music is a very special form of communication for me.
Perhaps the person I am today is a compensation for who I was years ago. That awkward twelve-year old, however, is no more. Now I want to show the world what I can do. Communication has become my passion. It will be my future.
In life, overcoming obstacles is an important part of growing up. One of the first obstacles someone encounters in their life is learning how to walk. There are other obstacles in life such as learning to drive, getting married, and learning to cope with loss. Overcoming obstacles helps people learn to deal with other people, strengthens them mentally, emotionally, and teaches them how to deal with future obstacles. People learn to deal with others by overcoming their obstacles because then they will not make people angry by every word they say. When someone starts kindergarten, they learn how their peers act, and so they will know how to act around them without getting them angry. When someone starts high school, they learn how even more people act and then when someone starts college or living on their own they learn how even more people act in the real world. Their parents or teachers do not shelter them any more. Someone can become stronger mentally and emotionally by overcoming his or her obstacles. After one starts kindergarten they know they can go back the next day and will not need their parents to help them. When learning to ride a bike, after someone's first fall, a person can get back on the bike and try again. After someone gets over their first heartbreak, they learn from their mistakes and they can begin to date again. People learn how to deal with future obstacles by learning from their mistakes and letting them know they can do it again and move on to the next obstacle without having a catastrophic disaster. Then getting through it, lets them know that they can do it, and it would give them more self- confidence and better self-esteem. Instead of low self-esteem, by thinking they are a screw up and cannot do anything right. As a result, overcoming obstacles is very important to growing up because is very important to growing up because if we do not overcome obstacles, we will not know how to do anything. We will not know how to eat properly, walk, or sleep in the dark. Overcoming obstacles helps build character, and helps build good morals. I would hate to see someone who didn't overcome his or her obstacles.
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